Good day beautiful people
I hope this post meets you well? Today I want to share with you, why I believe it’s important to be content in the place where God has positioned you! Be happy where you are! For the single ladies out there, be happy single, for it’s the place that God intends for you to be. I’m happy that I get to walk along this road of singleness for the time being, as I get to encourage those travelling along the same path. Your loved ones and friends my sympathise with you (pity you), but may not truly understand your feelings, because they haven’t been through, or had to go through what you’re currently experiencing! Which is why I’m happy to share MY STORY ‘The chronicles of a christian single lady…occasionally featuring some of her friends’ with the world!
Isn’t it beautiful that the very thing which I despised, has now become my testimony. In my weakness God is glorified. All the hardships and trials I face, are for the benefit of others. My pain helps others! So I urge every reader to try and see the purpose in your pain. ‘The chronicles of a christian single lady’, has now become like a mini ministry 😀, praise God.
2 Corinthians 1:6 ~ Even when we are weighed down with troubles, it is for your comfort and salvation! For when we ourselves are comforted, we will certainly comfort you. Then you can patiently endure the same things we suffer.
2 Corinthians 12:9 ~ Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.
In the past I used to dread thinking about being single, as I used to believe the lie that being single was a problem, and that it made you inferior in some ways. But now when those so called thoughts creep into my mind, an overwhelming sense of joy rises up within me. Why? Because I start thinking, I can now use what the enemy intended for evil, for good. Not in my own strength, but with the help of the Holy Spirit. Sermons and blog posts have been birthed from the many negative thoughts I’ve had, and processed. Can I get a hallelujah.
Reasons why I’m happy and thankful for my single SEASON.
1. As I’ve grown in years, looking back I’ve come to realise that I didn’t know as much about myself, as I thought I did. Reflecting upon the past I’m grateful for not receiving what I wanted then, as now I see it wouldn’t have been what I truly wanted. There is still SO much I’m discovering about myself, I’ve discovered new talents, hobbies, and likes! (Guys strawberries are so yummy, I’ve only just realised how delicious they are, within the last few months).
2. There’s a lot which I desire to accomplish, and I feel that if I was married with kids, there’d be a potential I ‘may’ have shown some resentment towards my spouse, and may have gone as far as blaming our relationship for being the reason why, I haven’t achieved what I wanted to achieve a lot sooner. It’s my desire to give my future family the attention they need, and not to NEGLECT them because I’m too busy with projects. I’m not saying you cannot achieve your dreams whilst being married with kids, for with God all things are possible. But my personal journey is different to the girl’s next door. Which is why it’s important to seek God for guidance, instead of trying to copy someone else’s lifestyle choices. I know God wants me to sort out a few bits and pieces prior to marriage, and I’ve accepted this 😀.
3. I get to spend more time with God and grow in the faith! I really value quiet time with my Heavenly Father, and I desire to maximise as much time as I can within His presence. I am also able to do more in terms of helping out in church, and organising events. I also get to maximise the time I spend with my parents and siblings ❤️❤️❤️.
Acts 21:8-9 ~ The next day we went on to Caesarea and stayed at the home of Philip the Evangelist, one of the seven men who had been chosen to distribute food. He had four unmarried daughters who had the gift of prophecy.
^^^ These women were unmarried but it didn’t stop the Holy Spirit from using them! They weren’t just spare parts which had no use, they contributed in the building up of the early church.
4. Being single has enabled me to work on my personal development. I’ve been able to undertake a few short courses here and there, which I’ve found to be extremely fun, and therapeutic. These courses have helped push me out of my comfort zone!
5. The single season has highlighted to me, that there is still so much that I want to do with my life! I just want to travel the WHOLE WORLD tbh, and help those in need whilst on my spontaneous adventures. And to add sharing the gospel to my travels, now that is what I call living life (well in my own eyes).
6. It’s a time to SAVE. It’s important to live according to your means, avoid spending what you don’t have, and work on saving for a potential rainy day, or for investment purposes. Living with family has enabled me to save a lump sum, so I’m very grateful, and privileged.
7. I enjoy living spontaneously. I haven’t been called to walk along the path of parenthood just yet, but I’m privileged to witness many of the great sacrifices, which amazing parents (my parents included) make, for the benefit of their children. I’ve been told many times to enjoy the single season because it’s a gift from God, and that I will do! I choose to enjoy life, every bit of it.
I hope you enjoyed reading today’s post, and I pray that you too can enjoy the benefits of the single season, as God intends for you to do so! I’d also like to clarify, that I am in no way saying that you cannot accomplish the things which I’ve listed above, if you’re married, or a parent! One can do all things in line with God’s will for their life, through Christ Jesus. But in a marital union your priorities change, you have to take your spouses needs into consideration, as marriage is about serving. Also certain tasks may take slightly longer to accomplish, with additional responsibilities such as childcare etc.
1 Corinthians 7:32-36 ~ I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible. But if a man thinks that he’s treating his fiancée improperly and will inevitably give in to his passion, let him marry her as he wishes. It is not a sin.”
Whatever helps you serve the Lord best, do it. If you believe you can serve God better in a marriage, then ask God to lead you to the right spouse, at the RIGHT TIME. The person who marries does well, and so does the unmarried person!
The last note I’d like to leave you with, is to simply enjoy life, but remember that in all you do, you should do it for the glory of the Lord! Don’t turn marriage into an idol, because the Lord detest idolatry. He desires for nothing else to take His place in our hearts.
Ecclesiastes 2:24 ~ So I decided there is nothing better than to enjoy food and drink and to find satisfaction in work. Then I realized that these pleasures are from the hand of God.
Ecclesiastes 11:9 ~ Young people, it’s wonderful to be young! Enjoy every minute of it. Do everything you want to do; take it all in. But remember that you must give an account to God for everything you do.
Love you all
Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart