Good day beautiful people
I hope that you all had a wonderful, productive, restful and joyous week? Once again welcome back to our series ‘How to live the best life’. ‘No man is and island’. This life is not meant to be lived alone, we’re to share and create beautiful memories with other human beings! Although some people may choose to be alone, God did not intend for people to permanently live in complete isolation from one another.
Genesis 2:18 ~ “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.”
Today I want to talk about the importance of healthy relationships. It’s good to know what to look for in a friendship and red flags to be aware of, but it’s also important to BE the friend you desire to have.
A biblical example (Mark 2:3-5)
Mark 2:3-5 ~ “four men arrived carrying a paralyzed man on a mat. They couldn’t bring him to Jesus because of the crowd, so they dug a hole through the roof above his head. Then they lowered the man on his mat, right down in front of Jesus. Seeing their faith, Jesus said to the paralyzed man, “My child, your sins are forgiven.”
There are SO many great characteristics/qualities of a good friend that can be identified in the three verses above! (These characteristics can also be identified in healthy family relationships too).
1. Going the extra mile: In a healthy relationship both parties strive to go the extra mile for each other. They go above and beyond for the sake of their loved ones well-being. A good friend is sensitive to their friends need or has the desire to know what specific concerns their friend has. The four men went out of their way to carry their sick friend on a mat. This wasn’t an easy task at all, and to carry him onto a roof showed that they were determined to see their sick friend receive healing from Jesus.
2. Encouraging others not to give up: A good friend will motivate you to pursue your dreams and remind you not to give up when times get tough. The friend’s described in Mark 2 didn’t allow a large crowd of people hinder them from taking their friend to Jesus. A good friend uses their words to speak truth, affirm you, and will not tear you down.
Ephesians 4:29 ~ “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”
3. Pulls you closer to Jesus: Now, not all your friends may be Christian and that’s ok, but a good friend is one who will not cause you to do anything against your conscience, they’re not manipulative. Christian friends in your inner circle should not encourage you to go against God’s word or tell you to give up on God when times get tough. A good friend will pray with you and for you. They will point you back to scripture and revive your hope through using God’s word. Their faith can make a difference in your life and can bring about marvellous results through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Proverbs 27:17 ~ “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.”
James 5:16 ~ “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.”
4. They’re willing to sacrifice: Sacrifice works both ways and for a relationship to remain healthy both parties will have to compromise at some point in time. The friends described in Mark 2 may have had their own busy schedules to get through, yet they took the TIME to help their friend! Giving up our time and energy for others is a great expression of love! We know this because we have Christ as the perfect example to look at. He literally gave His life for us so that we may enjoy eternity with God in heaven, and no longer have to face eternal damnation.
1 John 3:16 ~ We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters.
In life you need healthy relationships to thrive. You cannot journey this life alone and expect all to be well with you mentally, spiritually or emotionally. Remember that there are kind people in this world who you can call friend. It’s not impossible to develop healthy relationships with friends and family but it DOES take work. Even the bible says we ought to work for peace!
Romans 12:18 ~ Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.
I must admit that I am SUPER blessed to have people in my life that genuinely what to see me do well, and push me to pursue my dreams, and are happy to see me achieve greatness, and have made many sacrifices to witness my dreams come to fruition. And honestly sometimes I feel like they push me more than they push themselves, and they’re not jealous of the good things which God does in my life. I know such people may be rare to find but they do exist, people who are happy when good news comes your way even though they may be facing immense life challenges.
We have a biblical example of this when looking at the relationship between David and Jonathan. Although Jonathan was King Saul’s son and logically should have been next in line to be king, he was happy to see David rule over Israel because he knew and accepted that God had chosen David to be King (1 Samuel 20:30-42).
I hope you could learn a thing or two from today’s write up. Until next time, stay safe and God bless.
Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart