Good day beautiful people
I hope that you’re all doing well? Today’s post is part of a series called ‘The chronicles of a single christian lady occasionally featuring some of her friends’, and in today’s episode I’ll be discussing about matchmaking. And as always I like to share my experiences so that others can learn from my encounters and avoid making the mistakes I made.
I believe it’s important to be aware of certain things before making the commitment to register with a specific matchmaking service. This is because it’s no fun losing money and getting your heart hurt in the process. It’s nice to know that guarding your heart through making wise choices can also help you save some monies.
Proverbs 4:23 ~ Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
I will waffle no longer and will now share some points which I believe one should take into consideration before joining a matchmaking service.
1. PRAY: Prayerfully commit your ways to The Lord. It is pivotal to involve God in every aspect of your life, seek God for counsel and be patient. God cares about your love life and wants the best for you so do not leave Him out of the equation.
Proverbs 3:6 ~ Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.
2. Don’t feel pressured into using a matchmaker: You shouldn’t feel like you’re being forced into using a matchmaking service. Don’t let others or the matchmaker pressure you into making a decision, instead turn to God for wisdom. It’s natural to feel nervous about trying out something new but you should also have peace within. God desires for His children to have peace of mind, and if the potential of joining a matchmaking service robs you of your peace don’t move forward with it. If you’re being bombarded with messages from a matchmaking service prior to joining this could be a red flag. It could be a potential sign that they’re mainly after your money. This can be especially hurtful when you notice that communication ceases the moment you hand over your money. Also they may be in desperate need of increasing the number of people they have using their services. Or they could just be really helpful/friendly.
John 14:27 ~ I am leaving you with a gift peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.
3. Do your research beforehand: BEWARE OF SCAMMERS. Make sure the company you’re signing up to has a good reputation and is run by people who are honest. Sadly people do exaggerate (lie) when discussing their companies success rates at the expense of peoples hearts. I’ve also heard stories of people losing thousands of dollars and receiving no assistance with regards to meeting potential matches. A good tip would be to look for Google approved reviews. The thing about website reviews is that reviews are selected by those who run the company and it’s only natural to want to put your best foot forward and only showcase 5 star reviews.
Proverbs 19:2 ~ Enthusiasm without knowledge is no good; haste makes mistakes.
4. Don’t feel afraid to ask the matchmaker questions: Now if your questions are met with passive aggression (rudeness) then that’s a sign you shouldn’t be joining. If someone cannot be respectful enough to converse in a polite manner with you, it’d be risky to trust them to help assist you in potentially finding your spouse.
Proverbs 15:1 ~ A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
Some questions you could ask
⁃ How long have you been operating this service?
⁃ How many members do you currently have using your service? (This is an important question to ask because if there is a very limited number of members it may take a lot longer to find matches. It’s important for both parties to be honest. You should be honest about what you’re looking for and the matchmaker honest about how and if they can be of help).
⁃ How often can I expect to get matches?
⁃ How does your service work?
⁃ How much does it cost to use your service?
Personally I will never use a matchmaking service again, I didn’t really enjoy the whole experience but the positive thing is that I get to share my journey with my readers. Receiving a maximum of 4 profiles a month was not my cup of tea. And I wasn’t overly happy about receiving profiles outside of my selected preferences (I was sent a profile from someone outside of the country I reside in). I think another main reason it didn’t work well for me was because I made the decision to join out of frustration (my mind wasn’t in the right place). I didn’t create this post to bash matchmaking services as I’m sure that there are PLENTY of amazing matchmakers out there, I just want people to do their research before committing to signing up to a specific service. It’s also important to be in the right place mentally, emotionally and spiritually…Basically seek God at all times!! I’d encourage Christians to consider using a Christian matchmaking service as this will hopefully connect you with a larger pool of fellow believers.
Answers to your burning questions
Did you use a Christian matchmaking service: Yes
How long did you use the service for: Barely 6 months.
I hope that you could take something away from today’s short read and please do feel free to share this post with others who you know may benefit from this content. Also don’t forget that the greatest love of all you can ever experience in this life can only be found in Christ!
John 3:16 ~ “For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.”
John 15:13-14 ~ There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.