Sometimes distance is necessary.

Good morning to my lovely WordPress readers

I hope you’re having a blessed Wednesday and enjoying the first month of the new decade 2020!!!

So today I will be speaking about creating personal space within relationships! I believe that boundaries such as distance can help connections better flourish. I am convinced that providing each other with ‘some space’ gives individuals the opportunity to reflect and better appreciate their loved ones! Now I’d like to clarify that I am not referring to marital relationships within this post. This topic of discussion is based around extended families and adult children!

It is sooooo easy for emotions of frustration to build up when you have no personal space, due to large numbers of people being in the same non spacious environment. One feels like they NEED to escape. Everyone seems to be falling over each other, and the meal which you fantasied about eating all day has gone missing from the fridge (eaten by that one person who never stops consuming/devouring food!). And if it can’t get any worse you find yourself unable to get 7 hours of sleep a day because of all the noise and racket taking place within your surroundings! And let me warn you it is very easy to fall into temptation when you’re hungry and tired, this is because one becomes more susceptible to flipping out! And guess what? One of the tactics which Satan loves to use, is to attack us when we are at are weakest. But we have the Holy Spirit within us who gives us the power to say a resounding NO to sin! Use the word to overcome temptation just as Christ did! Jesus repeated the phrases ‘IT IS WRITTEN’ to defeat the devil (Matthew 4:4).

I believe that many people can relate to the above example of a non spacious and stressful environment! And I’d like to advice anyone who is on the verge of an outburst to not let your frustrations get the better of you! The bible says we should not let our anger control us (Psalm 4:4)! Try to communicate and see if matters can be resolved through talking, and setting up appropriate measures to help bring about harmony for all individuals involved! Pray to God to help you better your character!

Now I’m going to take us right back to the book of Genesis! Where we are told about the lives of Abraham and his nephew Lot! Things got a little heated between their household servants! There was serious dispute over lack of space (A LOT of arguing)! So the two had to split, but fast forward a few verses later and we see that Abraham did not hate his nephew, neither did he hold a grudge against him. But fought for him (Abraham rescued Lot from being permanently captured by enemy forces). AND he interceded on behalf of Lot by praying that God would save his nephew from the destruction that would befall Sodom and Gomorrah.

Genesis 13:5 Now Lot, who was moving about with Abram, also had flocks and herds and tents. 6 But the land could not support them while they stayed together, for their possessions were so great that they were not able to stay together. 7 And quarreling arose between Abram’s herders and Lot’s. The Canaanites and Perizzites were also living in the land at that time. 8 So Abram said to Lot, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herders and mine, for we are close relatives. 9 Is not the whole land before you? Let’s part company. If you go to the left, I’ll go to the right; if you go to the right, I’ll go to the left.”

Genesis 14:11 The four kings seized all the goods of Sodom and Gomorrah and all their food; then they went away. 12 They also carried off Abram’s nephew Lot and his possessions, since he was living in Sodom. 13 A man who had escaped came and reported this to Abram the Hebrew. Now Abram was living near the great trees of Mamre the Amorite, a brother[b] of Eshkol and Aner, all of whom were allied with Abram. 14 When Abram heard that his relative had been taken captive, he called out the 318 trained men born in his household and went in pursuit as far as Dan. 15 During the night Abram divided his men to attack them and he routed them, pursuing them as far as Hobah, north of Damascus. 16 He recovered all the goods and brought back his relative Lot and his possessions, together with the women and the other people.

Genesis 18:16-33 ~ Abraham the intercessor

So we can see that distance can be very healthy for relationships, but we must be willing to lend a helping hand when it is needed, and MUST keep on loving HARD!

God bless and thanks for reading!

Love from the godly lady