Gracefully ageing parents.

Good day WordPress fam

I’ve always believed that one of the toughest things about getting old, is watching your parents grow old. As people age, their health needs change. One is constantly adapting throughout their lifetime.

In today’s record of my single journey, I’ll be sharing some previous, and present concerns of mine, with you!

First concern being, I don’t like the thought of my family, or other individuals ‘worrying about me’. I’ve come to realise that, a lot of the conversations which I have with others, revolves around ONE specific question…‘Have you found anyone yet’? And when I respond ‘No not yet’, their facial expressions scream the words ‘Oh poor you’. Honestly I’m super grateful for people’s genuine concern, but after a while their constant remarks about lack of companionship, becomes very frustrating. I don’t want people to pity me, just because I’m single. I find it absurd lol. I love people’s love for me, it makes my heart glad. But the truth is, I am living a great life in Christ, He satisfies my soul, and gives me a deep inner joy, that I will never find in this world.

‘I thought mum and dad would be grandparents by now’, stated my little little sister. And if you’d asked me the exact same question 10 years earlier, I would have thought so too! But reality is, life doesn’t always pan out the way we want it to! I believed I’d be married at 23, and be a mother at 25. But that’s not what God had in mind for my life, and I’ve come to accept this. One thing I do know, is that God’s plans for my life are ALL good!

Jeremiah 29:11 ~ “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”

Isaiah 55:8-9 ~ “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.”

Ephesians 3:20 ~ “Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.”

One of my innermost desires is for my parents to enjoy the fruit of their labour. I don’t want them to worry about my happiness, I want them to enjoy every moment of life. I desire for them to be blessed with the opportunity to carry ALL of their grandchildren, in GOOD health. I want them to have the energy to have fun with their descendants, whilst still being fairly young. I must admit that my parents have never pressured me to get married, ever. My dad always says that God has a time for everything. And my mum likes to remind me that it’s always better to wait on God, than to rush and be unhappy/disappointed.

Psalm 27:14 ~ “Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord.”

^^^ A favourite verse of mine that helps me stay motivated, and keeps me going!

So spend less time worrying, as worrying steals our joy. Instead we should enjoy the precious moments which God gives us with our loved ones. Enjoy the NOW. Most of the things we worry about never happen, and we end up wasting hours of our life stressing, when we could’ve used that time to have fun with our parents. I know that it can be very daunting finding out that your parent has to undergo multiple surgeries. Trust me I know how it feels. And it can be frightening having to watch a loved one start a course of prescribed medication, pills which they have to take multiple times a day, with very strange names. Pills which you can’t pick up at your local supermarket. It can all be very scary, but remember we must be grateful for the time we have with our family. Try thinking about how much your loved one, loves you. This can help bring an element of happiness into our lives.

I know that I worry a lot about my parents health, and safety, but God reminds me that He’s had my parents back from before I existed. I may not know about tomorrow, but I know who holds tomorrow. And that gives me enough reassurance.

Philippians 4:6 ~ “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.”

Have a blessed day people, and worry less.

Love from

Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart